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Is it better to have loved and lost...

(17 Posts)
Hestheone Wed 20-May-15 22:27:54

Or never to have loved at all?

I'm still struggling with an answer to this.

Thoughts?

Gorgonzolacherry Wed 20-May-15 23:00:08

Loved and lost. Definitely x

Cabrinha Wed 20-May-15 23:08:16

Why does it need an answer?
Serious question, not being flippant.

OttiliaVonBCup Wed 20-May-15 23:10:03

I think better not.
Can't miss something you don't know.

EmilyMaitliss Wed 20-May-15 23:10:54

Absolutely loved and lost. When the pain ends you have happy memories from the earlier, more successful part of the relationship

Anniegetyourgun Wed 20-May-15 23:11:10

I like the version that says "'tis better to have loved and lost, than to be stuck with the bugger the rest of your life".

AnyFucker Wed 20-May-15 23:11:17

It depends (matches oblique answer to op)

NightsOfGethsemane Wed 20-May-15 23:12:46

Do you really need an answer? Genuine question. Presumably you're pondering something that has already happened so there's not much point in dwelling on 'what ifs'.

handfulofcottonbuds Wed 20-May-15 23:14:56

Was it my post on another thread that prompted your question OP?

handfulofcottonbuds Wed 20-May-15 23:15:32

Oh and it wasn't me that said that crap statement by the way, it was my counsellor!

FauxFox Wed 20-May-15 23:20:16

If they die before you its better to have loved and lost, if they turn out to be an asshole it wasn't love anyway it was mistaken identity.

LondonRocks Wed 20-May-15 23:23:19

Not necessarily.

VanitasVanitatum Wed 20-May-15 23:26:18

I think faux has a point!! Totally depends on what you take away from the experience I think.

Hestheone Wed 20-May-15 23:34:57

Yes handful it was,just gets me every time i hear it,no matter how stupid it is,just brings it all back.

handfulofcottonbuds Thu 21-May-15 11:51:40

I don't agree with it and I'm sorry if I was flippant smile

I get pure, unconditional love from my DS who I know will never desert me. I try not to regret anything but sometimes I wish I hadn't loved my stbxh as it hurt too much when I lost that love.

I agree with faux

MrsTrentReznor Thu 21-May-15 11:53:45

My Love died. At the time I thought this phrase was bollocks and I wished we'd never met because of the pain.
Years later I look back and smile.
Definitely better to have loved and lost.
smile

akaWisey Thu 21-May-15 17:13:07

If you love you can't avoid losing at some point.

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