At the weekend, DH and I were visiting his Aunt and his cousins. His Aunt's not been well with a recent hospital admission so went with the kids to see how she is. His Aunt has been through a lot with her DH, he has mental health issues and left her and the 4 DC without warning a few years back and went to another country to remarry. That didn't work out and he's now living round the corner to them, but only makes contact when it suits him and causes them all sorts of grief when he does. Despite all this, the Aunt and kids only speak well of him which I think shows how lovely they all are. The DC are now all in their 20s.
I just wanted some advice and I feel I can't ask anyone in RL. When we were there, the youngest DD (20) sat on her uncles lap stroking his head and cuddling him. I felt so uncomfortable. Her Aunt didn't say anything. Then later on, she was cuddling up to my DH and stroking his chest. I mentioned to him later on that it made me feel uncomfortable and he said all this stuff about how she's quite needy, and hasn't had a proper father figure in her life etc. I understand she's had it tough, but I felt her behaviour was inappropriate for a 20 yo. I said to DH it's sexual, whichever way she means it, she's young and pretty and it's not appropriate for the man (whoever it is) to encourage it. I'm also thinking about saying to DH that if I see her do that again to him, I will say to her that's it's not appropriate if he doesn't move away. Aibu to say that? Her DM or DB or DS didn't seem to notice. Is it just me? I mentioned it in passing to my SIL and she has also noticed the same and also felt uncomfortable, so it's not just me being jealous, if that's what anyone might think, DH thinks he's being like an older brother that's all, and the uncle as well I'm sure, its just, well felt wrong.
Any advice greatly appreciated. Do I mention things?
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Feeling uncomfortable with DH cousin's cuddles
ILovedThe90s · 18/05/2015 18:48
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