NC for this. I posted here about an issue with my dp, there were some thoughtful replies, it is a difficult issue. I came home tonight and realised that I had left my computer on with mn page on a tab and it was the open tab- the one that I had been posting on about him and our issues.
He has not called today, not replied to texts. I think he read it. The thread was about him and an issue he is facing and I am facing with him, all real, no fibs, no hyperbole, but if it was me reading this about myself on the internets I would be wounded. I dont know what to do. He might not have read it. He might have though and I dont know what to do to find out if did read it or to explain that I was trying to help by asking for help. He must feel betrayed but I did not think I was betraying by asking for help. Oh dear.
Any suggestions?
I am mortified. I love him, he is not behaving badly. It was not one of those threads where the answer would be LTB. It was started with genuine loss of where to go next.
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I left my computer on and dp read my posts
dpreadmythread · 12/05/2015 21:47
Yeah, I don't think it is very wise to start another thread when he is probably now reading this board.
This is why I don't personally post about any problems on forums because I would feel betrayed if my husband did the same, but I know for a lot of people this might be the only place they have to go for advice.
I hope that you can sort it out and he will understand why you felt the need to post about your problems 
Without knowing what you've written about him - i.e whether some of it may be perceived as being derogatory or belittling him in any way - I don't see why he should be offended that you've posted here.
Any rightminded person would of course be horrified to find intimate details of their private lives/relationships plastered over the internet, but presuming you haven't published the problem(s) together with identifying information on facebook, twitter, or other social media sites, seeking advice here is no different to offloading to a stranger on a train/plane.
To my mind that would be infinitely preferable to discovering that the opinions of family/friends had been solicited without my prior knowledge, which is what I would consider to be a betrayal.
Take the bull by the horns and show him your thread when you next see him.... and post again for further advice if necessary 
If he can't understand that you chose the 'anonymous' option rather than broadcast his/your problems to the world, then he's got an additional problem.
OP doesn't need to show their DP this thread. If he's come back to the R board for another look, the thread title will give it away immediately! This thread makes it worse. And what can be said now to make it better, what was the point of this new thread? 
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