My DP's kids and ex live in Manchester. He has a house there but works away Sun-Thu in Newcastle.
I live in Bucks, as does my ex, my parents and our extended family. My kids are in school here, his are in school in Manc.
The understanding has always been that he will move to be with me. There are more jobs in his field here for a start and my house is big enough for all of our children.
He's worked away before but never so steady Sun-Thurs, and misses his kids dreadfully. I feel for him. But last night he said that he was still looking for another job but ideally around Manchester so he could see his kids, but a role with a lot of UK travel so he could still see me.
So in essence I become a girlfriend he calls in on. He doesn't see it that way but I'm very hurt. He says that's his plan "in the short term" which seems to mean "for as long as my children live at home." They are 11 and 9.
We don't have a future together, do we?
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
How do people work out the logistics? Blended families
cristobalpankhurts · 12/05/2015 14:18
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.