My DSis has left her husband for his best friend and I really dislike him and don't know how I should behave with them both now.
He is separated from his own wife and was best man at my DSis' wedding. My BIL is a lovely guy and absolutely devastated by all this. They have a two year old daughter (my DH and I also have a DD of a similar age so we often spent time together).
I have known the new man for about five years and have always thought he was a total knob - my DSis always said she did too which is all the more baffling.
But now when she blithely tells me she is going on weekends away with this guy, I honestly don't know what to say so just murmur something and stay quiet or change the subject. Every other weekend when she doesn't have my niece, she and the man go away together.
I feel so disloyal towards my BIL at the moment even to hear about this man. I am saddened by my DSis' behaviour too in her lack of sensitivity/awareness about how her husband might feel. I have to say it is all quite out of character for her.
I don't want to close the lines of communication with her but I am really struggling to hear her sounding all jolly about her new man when my BIL can't talk about the end of their marriage without breaking down in tears. Not to mention for him, losing his best friend at the same time.
My DH and I are the only 'family' my BIL has nearby and I am trying not to be over-invested or come down on either side but I can't just shut the conversation down when it arises. Does anyone have any advice for me about how to keep a relationship up with my DSis without having to hear about the new man who I deeply dislike?
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I really dislike the man my sister has left her DH for - how to act?
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bangbangprettypretty · 10/05/2015 12:45
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