I've been split up from my exp for 18 months now, we have ds3 and dd1.
I know ex uses cannabis and has in the past used cocaine - this caused him to develop seizures.
He didn't want to split up and contest with the kids was very difficult in the early days, I encouraged a lot of contact even though he was constantly abusive to me in front of the kids - he has broken windows trying to get in my house while myself and the kids were inside, he has threatened me in front of them, sworn at me, told the kids it's my fault he doesn't live with us etc etc. He has received a harassment warning from the police who referred us to social services because they thought our DS was scared of him (tbf I dont think this was founded).
So current situation is that exp started on me at drop off 2 months ago, in front of the kids, so I took them away and they have not seen him since. I had warned him I'd do this if he continued this behaviour but I don't think he believed I'd do it.
Now I've had constant calls/texts etc, calls to my work, abuse given to my family members. A lot of the texts I receive are nasty so I just ignore them.
My question is if you think I'm doing the right thing, or advice on what is the right thing to do for the kids. I called ss but we are not under their care, they did say I had to protect the kids but that was all really.
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Oldname · 09/05/2015 15:07
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