My husband has always had times when he is required to work away. A couple of years ago he spent 4 months abroad, but we had planned and talked about it and we managed it fine.
Since then it has only been 2-3 days at a time.
However in the last few months it has been becoming more and more frequent and unpredictable. eg; He said he would be away for 3 days, after 2 he told me there was a problem and he would be staying longer. It turned out that he wasn't even in the country that I thought he was in.
He came home on Thursday at 3am and had a couple of days at home, now he's leaving again to step in for someone who is off sick.
When he is home is amazing and makes a lot of effort with spending time with me and our young children and doing household jobs etc. He gives up on sleep because he wants to have as much time with me as he can.
But it feels as though when he is at work he completely forgets about us. Once he is in the 'work' mindset he doesn't think about anything else. I'm not even sure why I feel like that, because he does text or call when he can. I've had a lot of anxiety and depression this year and this situation is making it even harder to deal with.
I have spoken to him about it several times and he is very understanding and says he hopes things will improve again soon and that he will try to make more effort to keep in contact.
Anyway...
I talked to a close friend about it earlier and she suggested that maybe he was having an affair which really upset me because obviously that is not true and I honestly can't imagine why anyone would say that. It is making me doubt myself and then I feel guilty for not trusting. She must have thought it for a reason? She knows both of us quite well and it's bizarre that she would even mention the possibility that he was unfaithful to me. He isn't that kind of person at all.
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Advice please - Partner working away
Bloodwood · 09/05/2015 13:23
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