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Am I being over sensitive?

(189 Posts)
TooFatToFuck Fri 08-May-15 21:02:02

Yesterday I was verbally abused about my weight by 2 kids (both about 11/12 years old) as I walked home. Its was horrible, I was so embarrassed and upset. Today whilst walking home with my toddler the same 2 kids were pointing at me and then started to come towards us. I was scared and thought they were going to shout stuff at me or throw stones or something, but thankfully they passed us without incident.

Anyway, I told my DH about it today, how scared I felt and he just laughed sad. I feel so shit. I was scared because I wouldn't have been able to do very much if they did throw stones at me or something. I don't want my toddler to witness me getting abuse.
I snapped at DH that I don't think its anything to laugh about but he hasn't apologised and thinks I just took his laughing the wrong way.

So, was I oversensitive about DH laughing?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Fri 08-May-15 21:03:45

Not over-sensitive no. He, above all people, should have your back.

JeanSeberg Fri 08-May-15 21:04:04

No. He sounds like an arse. What's he like the rest of the time? (Think I can guess.)

Waltermittythesequel Fri 08-May-15 21:04:53

No he's being an arse!

That sounds horrible. flowers

FeijoaSundae Fri 08-May-15 21:05:42

That sounds awful. The incident itself, I mean.

Why would your DH laugh? Is that out of character for him?

Joysmum Fri 08-May-15 21:08:42

Ask him why he finds the fact that you are upset so funny.

TooFatToFuck Fri 08-May-15 21:31:48

I'm glad you all agree that I wasn't oversensitive. I have no idea why he laughed, if I ask him he will just say that he didn't mean it in that way. He hates my weight so maybe that's why?

Think I shall hide in my house for a few days..

Waltermittythesequel Fri 08-May-15 21:38:15

I can't even call you by that username because I'm sure you aren't too fat for anything!

When you say he hates your weight, do you mean in a 'it upsets you and I know you want to he healthy so I hate that it makes you sad' way or in the way that I sadly suspect? ie: he's a prick.

TooFatToFuck Fri 08-May-15 21:41:09

I've just asked him and he said he wasn't paying much attention to what I was telling him and so didn't realise that it was wrong to laugh.angry

StaceyAndTracey Fri 08-May-15 21:46:08

He sounds lovely .

Hates your weight
Rubbishes your feelings
Doesn't listen when you are telling him some thing important

Please tell me why you use that name on Mumsnet ?

Meerka Fri 08-May-15 21:49:24

I think you are absolutely right to be upset.

Having said that, I think you |yourself have some issues with your weight because of your user name. Maybe you need to look at them straight.

TooFatToFuck Fri 08-May-15 21:49:40

He hates the impact on my health and the way I look. I can understand this, I am very very large and tbh it isn't attractive at all.( I am doing something about it though!)
He did say on our wedding night that I was too fat to fuck but other than that he is quite loving.

Waltermittythesequel Fri 08-May-15 21:51:03

He's a fucking bastard.

Filthyandgorgeous Fri 08-May-15 21:51:43

That comment has made me feel sick.

DorothyBastard Fri 08-May-15 21:54:25

Oh my god, no one 'quite loving' would dream of saying something so catastrophically cruel like that to the person they love. He's a cunt.

Blue2014 Fri 08-May-15 21:55:33

I got fat, it's not healthy, im sure my DH would prefer me thinner. But he would never ever ever say I was too fat to fuck, that is a truly horrific comment! confused Honestly, you deserve better (also I have a very heavy friend, she probably around 26 stone and single, she seriously has no trouble at all finding men who are thrilled to fuck her, your man is an arse!)

BotoxBitch Fri 08-May-15 21:55:55

He said that on your wedding night!!! That's disgusting

Meerka Fri 08-May-15 21:58:52

He did say on our wedding night that I was too fat to fuck but other than that he is quite loving

you what?

maz210 Fri 08-May-15 21:59:41

Op, you are not being over sensitive at all. You should be able to rely on support and understanding from those nearest to you.

I'm disabled and once had an experience where two young women took the piss out of me in a shop. I was actually more angry than upset by it but by the time I got home and started relating it to my husband it all came out in a flood of tears and emotions! He cuddled me, supported me and told me what complete idiots those women were. He then laughed with me that they were too scared of me to come down the escalator and face me (they literally hid!) and made me tea.

You should be able to rely on the same support from your husband, I'm so sorry that you haven't got this. Big hugs for you, be kind to yourself. Your weight isn't important at all, no more so than my inability to walk like everyone else. Don't let this incident get you down, you're stronger than that.

maz210 Fri 08-May-15 22:01:32

Sorry, just seen your updates explaining your username.

You've just got my first LTB on here, you deserve so much better than him.

TooFatToFuck Fri 08-May-15 22:01:54

He really is normally lovely, I can't blame him for saying that to me really. I've put on 14 stones in only 8 years so it probably does cause him a lot of worry.

Tequilashotsfor1 Fri 08-May-15 22:02:23

Are you for real ? He said that to you?? shock

TooFatToFuck Fri 08-May-15 22:03:44

I'm so sorry that happens to you maz210, how awful!flowers

Filthyandgorgeous Fri 08-May-15 22:05:45

Please don't say, he really is normally lovely. That's not true is it or you wouldn't have started this thread?

FresherThanYou Fri 08-May-15 22:14:04

That is a terrible thing to say flowers
Do you think he was actually listening? Dh does this annoying thing sometimes where he just zones out & chuckles even if it's not funny it's bloody annoying angry
I'm sorry you've suffered abuse in the street that is incredibly unkind and must have left you very shaken flowers

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