My friend is stuck in a relationship that she cannot see a way out of. She goes out to work 60 hours a week, but her dp is off sick due to an injury. Her wages go into his bank account and she has to ask if she wants or needs anything. He does not know if he is planning to go back to work but his employer are pushing for a decision. Money is tight at the minute and if he made a decision they could do something about money in the long term. Every time she tries to talk to him about it he tells her to shut up and fuck off. She says he is too poorly to work but not too poorly to buy drugs and drink a lot. I said to my friend she should get her own bank account and her response was that he would kill her. I said that she needs to get out but with him having access to all her money she can't save to leave etc. She owes the local council money so can't apply for a house with them and says no to women's aid because its not an abusive relationship
She is just stuck. Her family don't know the situation because she's embarrassed.
Any advice would be amazing.
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fixedit · 06/05/2015 12:27
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