Hi
My DP repeats himself so much. He is constantly telling me what the DCs could harm themselves on. Constantly!
For example we've recently bought a double buggy so the 8 week old can go on bottom and 2 yo on top. He kept saying see it's really too heavy you MUST be careful. We have had this conversation soany times. I got annoyed today on a walk and said its boring and I know it's dangerous I can judge the situation.
Other examples are-we got given a bag of toys and DC reall likes on of the toys but DP says oh look that bits too small. I said casualty "oh well it'll be alright"he said every mother knows it's dangerous, I said come on DP it's boring, he told me to fuck off!
It's so constant I find it waring.
At the same time he is also always telling me how to do things, and repeating it. I seriously feel like leaving him as he never trusts me to do anything right.
An example, I finally found a moment to make some flap jacks and then he starts telling me to cut them before they cool etc etc but hanging around when I preparing it to tell me how to do it.
His dad is like it with his mum but I used to view that as controlling.
Also recently he keeps belittling me as I watch eastenders, he uses it in arguements. But watching eastenders isn't the only thing about me.
Is he being over the top? Is he controlling? Is this behaviour normal?
Help me. TIA
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ZombieZoo · 04/05/2015 20:19
Dh used to do this sometimes until he came across the phrase mansplaining. Now if he starts doing it he checks himself - shit, I'm mansplaining at you again.
Even ds1 (8yo) has caught himself doing it!
I think society brings men up to do this all the time, and because it is less hassle than picking them up on it all the time women just ignore it.
I would just pick a set phrase and repeat it every time you feel he is doing it. If you feel like the 'Mansplain!' that tends to go down in this house is too aggressive you can choose something more neutral, like 'It's OK, I am on it and don't need help right now'.
But calling out Mansplain! and watching him blush is more satisfying 
That's exactly how my DP would be!
So I've decided to find it enduring about the constant health and safety tips.
To use the term mansplaining to diffuse /make light of the constant advice.
Even when I was in labour recently he told me to breathe slowly, I said u always tell me what to do but this time I know you don't know how, (I was half joking ish, lots of G&A 
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