I love being a single parent on the whole. Love my job, have three wonderful children, a nice home. I'm proud that I left a marriage where I was emotionally abused and where dh gambled, drank excessively and lied to me.
But I can't say it's been easy. I had two short relationships that ended badly and l was left feeling quite raw.
It's been a period of adjustment. I think I'm doing ok.
However I'm feeling quite lonely. Just spent the bank holiday alone. Ex had my dc. My closest friend has gone silent since getting a boyfriend and moving him in. She actually said that her other friends barely told her anything now they had partners and that's the way it should be in her view
I asked her over for my birthday afternoon tea and champagne soon. She read the message and three days later, no answer. I'm not sure I even have anyone to invite. It'll probably be me, the kids and maybe my mum if I can persuade her to come. Seems a silly idea now.
Another close friend is no longer a close friend. She went v distant since my marriage ended. She texts occasionally, but takes about three months to reply to anything, so little point. I know people have their own lives, so I've just left it really.
This is all rather self indulgent, I know. There are worse things than being lonely. I know people will suggest meet up etc. But I've tried that and didn't enjoy it much. There's a woman at work I like and she's mentioned going out at some point, so I might make an effort on the next work do.
I'm still online dating but no one really interests me and I don't want a man to 'rescue' me from my loneliness! I'm badly bruised and a bit wary from my previous break ups, so it'd take someone v special to turn my head. But even if I met someone, I still want good girlfriends to go out with and gossip with. Not sure what my point is. Just - am I pathetic? Is anyone out there? I'm sure I'm a decent enough person. I've been beating myself up a bit lately for not being good enough.
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madgirlslovesong · 04/05/2015 19:49
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