Relationship split ad struggling to come to term.

[kimmy88r]

So to cut a long story short my partner of 8 yrs left me in October 2014. We have a nearly 3yr old together. The reason was he had started to have feelings for someone else and that someone else is a work colleague who happens to be another man. They got together in February 2015 and are planning on moving in together, I just feel so lost and alone with no one to talk to an I have never felt this worthless!! I speak with a very very select few friends but my family are completely in the dark (I'm good at dodging questions) Know one really knows what I'm going through and in very good at putting on a pretense that I'm OK. I don't know how I'm meant to be dealing with this kind of heartbreak as I thought I would be with this person for the rest of my life. I have in no way turned into an evil bitter ex and we are on as good of terms as I can manage for our little lads sake, who by the way has not felt any of the effects he's never ever witnessed me upset over this and has never witnessed any bad blood between us he sees his daddy when ever he wants and as much as possible. My heart is broken he was my first relationship and and I have just found it hard that he's moved on so quickly which has made me question our whole time together.

I understand that maybe not many people have gone through this but I'm just looking in the hope I may find someone who can offer some words of wisdom ad share their experience.

Cheers

[honeyroar]

Oh dear, you do sound sad. Of course you're upset. You had a shock and are mourning the end of a long relationship. You need to tell more people. Nobody will judge, it's nothing to do with you, it just happened. Friends and family would want to be there for you and let you lean on them, mine did when I went through a nasty split.

You're certainly not worthless. You sound like a really good mum and a fair person. It might be that your ex had been feeling like that for a while, so he's had more time to come to terms with it than you have, it's not a shock for him, so he's ahead of you in the moving on stakes. Could you see a counsellor? It really helped me to talk to someone unknown.

You will get there. You will move on, and you will meet someone else one day. You might not feel like it now, but you will.

[honeyroar]

Ps, one of my friends went through exactly the same thing with her first husband. She is now happily married to someone else. My cousin's husband left her and decided to become a woman. My cousin has got through it and moved on. Lots of people go through lots of different things, don't feel embarrassed or anything.