What causes the most arguments in your relationship?

[emkana]

Just interested what it's like for other people.

We argue most about me thinking that dh doesn't give me enough attention.
That sounds a bit childish though, doesn't it?
We never argue about money, which I'm very glad about.

When I was working we used to argue about who does what around the house, but that stopped with me being a SAHM. Dh helps a lot with the children side of things, I do all the cooking and washing and we have a cleaner. So it somehow stopped being an issue, but could start again if and when I go back to work.

[busybusymum]

my DH

[FireFaerie]

I nearly slept on the couch last night over the central heating being on during the day.. we dont have double glazing, apparently if im cold i should DO more!

[popsycal]

uneven distribution of childcare/housework when we are both off work at the same time

[theUrbanDryad]

navigation and sense of direction. my dh can't seem to keep a map in his head and it drives me nuts! he also has a very blase attitude to getting somewhere we've never been before. example: we were driving up to bolton for a friend's wedding. i asked him if he knew where he was going. he said "oh, general direction of manchester isn't it?" i said, "well, yes, but then what?" he said, "oh, i hadn't thought that far ahead."

sorry to rant on, but it really winds me up. then i feel unreasonable.

it's about the only thing we do argue about (except the heating thing) so i suppose i should count myself lucky really...

[Mumpbump]

Housework, housework, housework

[ginnedupmummy]

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[lou33]

i'm still in the fortunate early stage of not really arguing about anything, but with exh it was his drinking

[Gobbledispook]

Ditto popsycal

Otherwise, not much, don't argue often

[controlfreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaky2]

dh behaving like an arse.
sex.
parenting.

[MamaG]

In my marriage to DH - housework

In my marriage to MN - dairlea dunkers

[MotherBeaker]

Don't really argue much - but anyone else disagree strongly over crazy family members??

[Tortington]

apathetic benign lazyness.
drunken arseholishness
OCD - addicted to invisible dwarfs
temper (his) usually

recently nearly got divorced over presure to do with mortgage - and getting one

then parenting

then money

usually all in one argument.

[sandyballs]

We argue about the fact that he feels he needs a long lie in every Sat and Sun because he "works so hard". I also work out of the home 3 long days a week with a long commute into London.
The other 4 days are full of childcare, housework, garden and everything else that needs doing. I got up at 7.30am yesterday with our DDs
DH emerged at 11.00 and then went to the gym .

[theUrbanDryad]

dairylea dunkers? where's the argument? they're delicious....i'm so addicted to them...

custardo - invisible dwarfs? wtf? his ocd or yours??

[MamaG]

UrbanDryad - here is the argument about dairlea dunkers

DISCLAIMER:
I'm sure you won't read all the thread but can I just say I posted in a lighthearted way and was more bothered that that is all she had to eat, rather than WHAT it was.

[puddle]

Housework
Laundry
His ability to start on six tasks and not finish one of them.

[sleepfinder]

1. Tiredness - unavoidable really

1. Booze - completely avoidable (and avoided by us both for that reason)

1. TV Volume controls...

[ScoobyDooooo]

Sharing the responsibilty of the children.

Tiredness/me being moody

Thats about it really we don't row much.

[ComeOVeneer]

Another one for the uneven childcare in the mornings. At the weekend I nearly always get up with the children and he surfaces several hours later. Even during the week I get up get kids ready fed etc and he surfaces just in time to cadge a lift to the tube station on the school run.

[Cappuccino]

the unpainted state of the external fascia boards

[Gobbledispook]

Sandyballs - I'd have locked him out and gone on washing/drying/ironing strike of his clothes.

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

His contrariness
Voicing his opinions when it's not always the right thing to do so
Being arsey about ssssssssooooooooooo many things
The central heating
THE F*ING DISHWASHER
Him not taking on board what I say without full justification and working notes ( and I am always right of course )