I'd be really grateful if someone could help me out here.
I've been seeing someone for a few months whom I met online dating, via Guardian Soulmates. I don't have a profile anymore, but he still does (I asked why he still had it the other day, and he looked surprised and said he didn't know the account could be deactivated, so it hadn't occurred to him, he just thought it was there until it expires).
Anyhow, even though I don't have an account, I can still see if he's been online by just looking on the site. I've checked very sporadically, and the two times he's been on in the past 4 months, he said it was because he'd received 'likes' and had messaged the women back to say thank but no thanks, he's in a happy relationship now, and to give them hope that the site does work.
I did pull him up about it last time, and he forwarded me the message he'd sent to the last one, so I could see it was genuine. And all was fine after that - I could see until Saturday that he hadn't been on for a over a month (and the time before that it was about a month too).
In the last week, he's been a bit distant, the last date we had was probably the worst we've had so far - no sex, which he's usually totally interested in, and it just didn't seem like we connected. He came over to meet friends of mine on Saturday but left early, saying he had work to do. Then I didn't hear from him for 24 hours. This morning I just thought I'd take a look online, and it said he's been on this week, so yesterday (when all I received from him yesterday was a one line text to say he loved me).
It might just be me feeling low on confidence, but I just need reassurance that he's not checking people out on there/messaging people.
Would someone who is on GSM mind to send him a message, or even just a like and let me know what he responds with? I know some people don't agree with this kind of checking up, but it would give some peace of mind and let m know either way whether he's genuine.
If anyone can help, please PM me.
Thanks in advance
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Online dating dilemma - can someone please do me a favour?
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tigerbear · 27/04/2015 19:24
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