I just finished Susan Forward's book Toxic Parents after hearing about it on this board. I'm interested that she strongly recommends confronting your parents about what they did to you, how it made you feel, what effects it had on your life, and how you want things to change now. She says that even if your parent ignores you, or denies it, or gets angry- confrontation is still important as you change through the experience of having the confidence to confront your parents.
I'm interested as more commonly I hear advice here to go NC, or reduce contact, with toxic parents, and to not tell them how you feel as it gives them more power.
Does anyone have any experiences with confrontation , good or bad, that they could share?
Are there any situations where confrontation shouldn't be attempted?
I would never have considered confrontation before reading this book, but since reading it I am wondering if it may be helpful for me. I really doubt my parents would change, but I might change by having the courage and standing up to them, and it would make it very clear that I am not continuing to ignore and condone their behaviour.
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Has anyone confronted their toxic parents, as Susan Forward recommends?
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birdssuddenlyappear · 25/04/2015 16:36
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