That's it, really. How do you know it's over? One big blow out row or a succession of events, rows, issues that finally overwhelm?
I ask because I'm in the second camp at the moment. If I didn't have children (18 months and 6) I would have walked away months ago on the basis of it all being too much. Life was hard enough with a new baby, me having PND piled on the pressure (made worse because DP didn't do a thing to help me get through it, saying I should just pull myself together) and going back to work full time has been tough. Then 13 year old DSS came to live with us full time about a year ago after being kicked out by his mum on account of his aggressive behaviour. He has poor attendance at school, few friends, makes no secret of his dislike for me and his young sisters, refuses to engage with family life and is generally moody and difficult to live with, for all of us. DP and I disagree on how to deal with him and the arguments about this go on and on. The latest one is whether DP should get him the decommissioned gun he wants - I try and remain calm whilst outling my concerns over his mental health issues, his aggression and talk about my concerns over the safety of the younger children. DP says he wants to encourage DSS to have an interest and that his obsession with firearms might be it and that it is perfectly normal for many boys to seek ownership of advanced weaponry (I'm paraphrasing a little). I simply look wide eyed at the man I fell in love with and wonder when he turned into such an idiot. Then I lose it and have spent the evening in tears, feeling trapped and in a whirlwind of ideas about where to go next with all of this.
So, when is enough enough? When have people stepped back and drawn that line?
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When is enough enough?
MillingtonBoo · 24/04/2015 22:33
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