I've posted before about the problems I've been having with my DH and his refusal to take responsibility for his own health, he said after last time that things were going to change but that's a different story, he's been happier later and things have been a bit better. Until today, that is. It's my birthday, and I'd planned a nice day with my family (including my dad, who I haven't seen on my birthday for 15 years) Last night he went to pick up a supermarket order I'd placed, came home and said "There were a couple of things missing but I didn't think they were important". One of them was a shoulder of pork, and he knew that I was making pulled pork for lunch today. When I pointed this out he got the strop on with me, but I ignored it. Fast forward to this morning, there was a card on the hearth when I got up but he hasn't said happy birthday to me once, and, it transpires, hasn't got me a present. I'm not talking some grand gesture here, I'd have been thrilled with a box of chocolates or bunch of flowers from the kids, but there's nothing. Didn't say anything all day until he brought it up and then I said I was a bit upset, he's now got the face on again and is stropping round saying he's ruined my birthday. Which he hasn't, I've had a lovely day. I'm just a bit sad that despite all the nice words he's not putting the effort in that he thinks he is and that as far as he's concerned I'm not even worth a bunch of daffs from the corner shop. Sorry, just wanted somewhere to vent, anyone I talk to IRL tells me I'm ungrateful but I don't feel like I am sometimes. And apologies if I'm rambling, wine may have been taken this afternoon 
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Shouldn't be this sad today
CaitSith · 21/04/2015 18:44
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I don't think you sound ungrateful at all! I do think if people can't be bothered with your birthday, it says a LOT about how important you are to them.
What would his reaction be if you just got him a card on his birthday, didn't say anything and no present?
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Aww, thank you! I wish there was someone I could go out with tonight but I've got two little DC and my dad is staying at our house tonight after he had a massive falling out with the relative he was staying with (which is a whole other thread!) I've got plenty of wine and a lovely cake my mum made me though so I'm sure I'll manage 
Happy birthday 
Enjoy the cake and wine!
Men are odd sometimes most of the time their brains dont work like ours!
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