trying but failing

[lowlowlower]

Hi,

I posted a while back about how I had a bad relationship and i was doing a lot of drugs. You guys all told me to go to the doctor. Well, I kind of went private because my brother paid and i am getting a lot of help and ppl at college are really encouraging me. At work tho there is one guy who really doesn't like that I don't do drugs. He is my boss but not if u see what I mean. He shouts a lot at me and said that I had to give him head and i did before. (but I don't remember?) I did it a couple of times because he said he would tell everyone I am a junkie and he was hurting me a bit but not like punching me like my ex husband. He said it was better when I was on ecstasy. He said that he will give me a few hundred and i could get some new clothes and he gave me money before--but i totally don't remember that!! And that I need to pay him back. I am being strong because i am not doing drugs but I don't want to touch him. He is like over 50 and really horrible and i really don't remember that we were friends.
I really need my job though. It was my first from the refuge and i don't know how to do anything else.
I have 478 saved. Shall I just give it to him and then should buy me some time to think. Thanks x

[lowlowlower]

Oh, and i can't tell my brother because he would hate me. I done a lot of shit on drugs and he said paying for my doctors is my last chance. I should maybe tell him (doc) but what if he gets mad because I am still around a drug friend.
I feel like I am going crazy because I don't remember that we were friends but maybe was too high.

[pocketsaviour]

He's probably lying. So he is senior to you but not your manager? You need to talk directly to your manager and let him/her know exactly what this man has said and done. If you have any emails and texts from him, don't delete them. This man needs to be stopped, sacked, and possibly arrested - blackmail is a crime and so is sexual contact through coercion.

Please speak to your manager - ask a colleague to go with you if it's easier.

[FloraWebb]

Find someone at work -do you have human resources/personnel? -and tell them whats happening. Tell your doctor or brother or the police - don't give this guy money - stay strong