NC for this as totally embarrassed by this situation TBH! And I've literally just realised putting 1999 in my username totally makes me look like a teenaged troll enjoying the holidays but I promise I'm not!
So DH left me in July which totally knocked my confidence - self esteem is at rock bottom, do not believe anyone will ever be interested again etc etc.
However I was out with a group of friends about 8 weeks ago and bumped into a group of lads. Some of them knew each other vaguely but I didnt. Had a great night with them and that was that. Next day one of them who I fancied tracked me down on Facebook and we started messaging several times a week, really good and funny conversations. He didn't ask me out on a date but wanted to arrange for us all to go out as a group again. So we finally arranged this for the weekend just gone. So we met up as a group and had a great time again until it was just us left. He made the first move and went in for a snog. We got more drunk and ended up back at his and did the deed. No way was I planning this but it just happened naturally. The next morning there was no awkwardness at all, still having a real laugh and great chemistry. He dropped me off home giving me a kiss and said I still looked good (I had said I can't believe he's seeing me make up strewn over face and looking rough). He text later that night to ask how I was feeling etc. we had another good text chat with him saying i really made him laugh and he loved my sense of humour.
Taking the fact that he text first after the event as a good sign, I text first the next day which was Saturday just a quick hi how are you. Got a quick one back which I replied to but that was it. Really wanted to leave it but temptation got the better of me and I text yesterday afternoon just asking if his mates had a good time with us. I've heard nothing! In our 8 weeks of messaging previously it wouldn't have been left that long so I'm pretty gutted to think that's the end of that!
My mind is doing overtime thinking what if he didn't get my text, what if he's text and it hasn't reached me, why did he bother texting me after the night if he wasn't interested?!
So as I never thought I'd be back on the dating circuit and things may well of changed since 10 years ago since I last had to go through all this - AIBU to be shocked that he has ignored me as he really seemed keen or have a missed something obvious?!
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AIBU to be totally confused by contact after (sort of) one night stand?!
RaRaRa1999 · 08/04/2015 18:01
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