feeling repulsed by ex right now

[dippyd123]

Hello, not really looking for advice just a full blown rant tbh I am already fully aware of what a arse he is.

Bit of background with him for around 8 months in 2004-2005 until i got pregnant and he decided he was too young bla bla, We have been pretty amicable since daughter was a baby, goes through patches of been bit flaky with access etc but in whole I dont have problem with him has a father. We have known each other for years mix with the same circle as friends so we have learnt to just accept each other been around at social gatherings etc.

Hes had a stroke of bad luck this last few months redundancy, gf suffering a miscarriage and they have recently split up so fully aware how down hes been however Friday night he was in the pub I was with a couple of mutual friends and he was with a different group he did come over and join us towards end of night and he was really far gone falling all over and slurring etc, he was going back to his mums and I was going same way so I said id share a taxi with him (more fool me) so waiting outside he started asking if he could come to my house i gave him a deffinate no next thing hes grabbing hold of me trying to kiss me hands all over me, I ended up slapping him to get him off me then i went back inside pub to get out of his way, I didnt want to make an issue of it I know how drunk he was in all the years ive known him never seen him so bad.

When I got home had a phone call I was half expecting him to be appologising but no he was raving on saying he didnt want me anyway just hung up on him, and turned my phone off for the night.

He was due to get our 9 year old today and has got his mum to cancel on his behalf apparently got a job interview has promised to have her this weekend and take her to the family caravan but we shall see Its the 3rd week hes not seen her. Hes deffinately avoiding me which is fine but im also concerned he maybe taking drugs as saw something on fb that as got me worried. He has history or recreational drugs when he was a teenager and early 20s ive always made it clear that didnt want him near daughter if that was the case and ive never had and any cause for concern so dont know, atm I think im just looking for faults because of how sickened he was on Friday night.

Like said not really looking for advice but obviously if anyone has any similar experiences or words of wisdom i will gladly take on board :) x

[ALaughAMinute]

Follow your instincts and keep your daughter away from him until you know for sure that he is off drugs. Don't under any circumstances let your daughter get in a car with him, and if necessary, seek help from social services. The guy sounds a nutter and you are well away from him. Good luck.

[Jackw]

He's lost his job and split up with his girlfriend so he was looking for some consolation sex from you. Thank goodness you have more self respect and batted him off. He's humiliated so he's avoiding/punishing you. He'll get over it. He's made a twat of himself and he knows it.

The drugs thing is a separate issue. Do you suspect him of taking anything while he is looking after your child?