Dh hasn't seen him for 20 years, he was abusive and never contacted him in all that time.
Bio dad has just contacted sil in an effort to reconnect with his children. Sil, who is older and remembers how life was, wants nothing to do with him. Dh is inclined to hear what he has to say, but isn't necessarily going to stay in touch, just wants to know why he was abandoned I suppose.
Sil has kicked up a huge fuss, saying dh is disrespecting their step-dads memory (he died in 07) and is basically making it very difficult for dh.
How do I support him through this? He (rightfully) wants to know what happened, he only has his mum's side of the story and doesn't really remember much as he was quite young when his dad left. But sil is being horrible about it, and I suspect mil won't be too pleased either. We don't really have much if a relationship with them, and to be perfectly frank, his childhood after his dad left wasn't much better and was still abusive, albeit in a different way.
Advice would be very much appreciated
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GreyjoysAnatomy · 05/03/2015 19:11
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