Please help - separation advice

[Bigbouncingbaby]

Basically looks like me and DP separating . We have a joint mortgage although he pays it and put in 90 % of the deposit. No way could afford the monthly mortgage or to buy him out

I know nothing about what I’m entitled to , benefits etc. I currently have a part time job 21 h a week. We have two small DC who are 1 and 4. It’s totally depressing I feel like I have a tonne of concrete weighing me down

The relationship has been up and down for years was especially bad after our first DD as he didn’t adjust to parenthood at all well. He is mainly a nice person just extremely miserable and shouty and hard to live with. On one hand he is great with the kids ... now they are older on the other he has no tolerance at all. Its reached the point where I just don’t care anymore , and to be honest its mainly financial reasons that have stopped me in the past . I’m scared and chicken of going alone. I also feel bad as we have recently a year ago relocated south from Birmingham to live nearer my parents and the coast. It’s all such a mess I don’t know where to start. We can’t afford our current house and to but me another am I better off in rented by my name on the mortgage. The main worry for me is DD starts school in Sept and obviously I have chosen her school. However there is no way I could afford to rent where I currently live so what do we do about that. Its so much easier to bury your head , I honestly don’t know where to start ? :( I just feel bad for the kids

[Only1scoop]

So sorry to hear you going through this Op....is he going to move out?

I don't have much advice but feel a very similar situation looming on my horizon so will watch and wish you well.

[Bigbouncingbaby]

Thanks scoop its a horrible feeling . Honestly Im not sure we need to properly discuss. Right now its the not talking to each other, other than through kids phase. Such fun :(