I am currently in my second trimester of pregnancy, me and dh already have a 2 year old (not biologically his - but he has been her Father since she was 1 and will be adopting her legally in the future).
His family make no effort with my daughter, she has no idea that dh isn't her biological father but fil likes to comment that 'she is my daughter and not his' infront of her. Mil or Fil have not make any effort to contact me since finding out I was pregnant or any effort to visit.
Sil has visited maybe once or twice and on last visit, made claims that her mother would have the baby once a week and that she would help too (I am due 2nd of Sept and am returning to uni in Oct (baby attending with me) and work weekends (will possibly have some time off but baby will be left with dh so I don't see the problem with not taking maternity)... ANYHOW - I barely know these people! I am fully aware that they are related to the child and will never do anything to stop the relationship but as for thinking that they can take the baby on their own? :S they're practically strangers to me! .... Plus there are also issues with sil constantly screaming at her lo's, and fil has once or twice banged my doors and windows screaming and shouting through letterbox because we didn't answer (Sunday morning - we were in bed!!!) ... There is also the issues with my lo desperate to go with sil when she visits (her children are similar ages) but she makes an excuse, promises that she will collect her another time and never does.. so how would she feel if baby is collected and she is left here?! She has no idea that dh isn't her father so there isn't a way of explaining 'sorry but they just don't see you as family' :-(
I am lose as to what to do! I can not force them to love my lo but couldn't have her feeling left out, how unfair!
Am I being completely out of order and should let them take baby?
Please note, I have no issues with them visiting baby here as often as they would like to.
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Starlight9 · 27/02/2015 11:07
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