Hi everyone. I'm a husband and Dad and wanted to belatedly ask for some thoughts. Our second child was tough on my wife as in the birth damaged her physically. 9 years later, I've realized that the emotional damage was just as bad.
I've been in to my work over the last decade, and have mostly been a reasonable Dad. However I now ashamedly understand how rubbish I've been a husband!
After the second child, I recall really feeling bad for her and whilst showing care, being nice, never gave a moments thought to my wife's emotional well being. It's both disgusting and terrible, I know.
Why am I thinking about it now? Because, after all this time, I realize she no longer loves me and being the selfish itiot, have finally started to reflect.
Together, we're very much civilized, without animosity, but loveless.
On the surface, she's a confident, intellectual, beautiful and fashionable woman. But underneath, I think she's not recovered, from the birth of our second child. I know this because she recently mentioned that love, between us, started dwindling after our second beloved was born.
So, clearly, this post is born from selfishness. However, I would like to assure everyone that I just want to get her to lover herself again.
I don't think, unfortunately, that our love is repairable and even want someone else to love her; i.e. she has an affair, so that she can feel loved and feel like being a complete woman again.
I honestly don't know if I'm being conceited writing this but hopefully someone will see read this and understand this issue. Be well everyone.
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DotingDad01 · 26/02/2015 13:45
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