Been together about 3 years but it's been an issue from the start really. DP has no interest in anything other than straight sex. I've asked him loads of times if we can spice things up a bit and he always agrees but it never happens. With him it's same and robotic. The same basic foreplay (just enough to make sex possible) and then sex. By foreplay I mean he rubs me down there but he often does it too hard so it stops being pleasurable and feels like he's just trying to rush it as much as possible. I often have to tell him to be more gentle as he starts to hurt me. That's it, there is no other foreplay. I've tried initiating oral and whilst he's happy for me to do it to him, he won't return the favour. Even if he just stroked my legs or something - anything just to make it feel less like he's trying to get a machine to work iyswim?
Even the actual sex is becomming boring and I'm finding it harder to climax. He gets on top of me and basically just goes at it until he comes with his head buried in the pillow next to me face. It seems so lazy that he can't even bring himself to keep his body upright so we can kiss or even look at each other.
As I've said I have tried talking to him and he agrees (to shut me up) and then nothing changes. Last night I was kissing him and stroking him in bed and he kept waffling on about madonna falling off stage and other pointless shit that I don't care about. I'd love him to just take the lead one day and show that he actually wants me
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Boring sex :-(
StoneTempleRoses · 26/02/2015 11:58
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