I don't know if this is the right board to post this on. It's asituation that's really upsetting me and I just wondered if anyone else could offer any advice!
My sister and I have never really got on. We're both adults now with our own families. There has always been some tension between us, for as long as I can remember, but just recently it has for worse. I have no idea what the cause is. I would like to be friends with her.
When we were little my sister, who is older, was usually favoured, certainly by our dad. I always felt not quite as clever or pretty or as slim as she was.
As a result of this, which was deeply ingrained in my childhood, I have very low self esteem and no confidence.
We were both very close to our mum who sadly died some yeras ago. Mum knew of our difficulties but she didn't undestand it either. My dad became ill when I was still living at home and so I helped out a lot. Mum and I were then the best of friends and it remained like this until she died. Over the years I've tried hard to be a good sister, ive looked after her children for free when she went back to work, ive babysat so she can go out etc. I went on a spa day for her birthday (at her insistence, I didn't want to go as id just had a baby and was breastfeeding - my poor boobs were like rocks at the end of the day!!) she has never done anything like this for me and I would never ask a favour of her. Sometimes I have asked her to meet up etc but she always says no, it's on her terms only.
Now I'm married with my own kids. My kids like to see her children, their cousins and up until recently we would often meet and the kids would play. However suddenly, she stopped all contact. She's become very frosty towards me and I haven't seen her for months. My kids are upset and ask what's going on but I can't answer as I don't know either!
I saw her at my dds school today as her dc is also a pupil there. I smiled and said hello etc got a very curt response. I have no idea what I've done now but it's really getting me down, I was in tears as I left the playground.
So shall I just pretend like nothing has happened? I don't want an argument and if I try to speak to her she will argue etc. I'm likely to be moving house soon and leaving the area for good. She won't even know where I am - perhaps she won't give a toss? Maybe I've just bee a doormat?
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Pleasepassthewine · 30/01/2015 14:35
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