I have been casually seeing someone for just over a year. About 2 months ago we decided to work towards a relationship starting slowly with an exclusivity agreement (neither of us were intimate with others but we hadn't discussed it). I am very fond of him and his conduct towards me and everything suggests he is fond of me
Unfortunately I had a contraceptive failure and due to medical issues a TOP this was not disclosed to my sexual partner.
He was aware I had a procedure of some description but no idea what. Due to the nature of the medical issue and his view points being irrelevant to the outcome I did not disclose as I felt it would be unfair on us both if I did.
After the required abstaining from sex I obviously obtained a different form of contraception. After consulting with a specialist recently about contraceptive choices I was advised to not rely on the contraceptive option I had chosen and not rely on any hormonal contraception and to pretty much treat it as if any intimacy had been unprotected.
I was advised to have a blood test to assertain if another pregnancy had occurred (it hadn't) and due to sexual contact a few hours previously take the MAP they also advised inserting a copper coil. I took this advice.
Roll on 48 hours after and I was still in excruciating pain and bleeding very heavily I attended an emergency appointment with my GP who was very concerned about the coil and removed it.
My GP advises the use of a diaphragm and I will be being fitted for one within the next 2 weeks.
This contraceptive issue has troubled me lots and I would rather like some emotional support from my sexual partner. I also feel he needs to be aware that my contraception is different in order to ensure he makes an informed choice as the diaphragm is perceived as being significantly less reliable.
I did message him today asking if he could come round tonight as I wanted to discuss something important with him rather annoyingly he didn't show and didn't let me know until gone 11pm that he was not coming.
I'm not really sure what I'm asking your advice on apart from A. How to broach this B.am I being weird about wanting some support.
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