So close to crying!

[Joanna2239]

Wasn't sure where to write this so sorry if it's in the wrong place, me my partner and child moved back in with my parents few months ago to save money to rent a bigger place, she's always been the type to talk about me stir my words take over put me down my whole life but since moving back in she's made it a nightmare for us within the first month I regretted moving back here, she doesn't like my partner for absolutely no reason takes my daughter out without asking me tells me I don't deserve good things argues with me about my decisions with my own daughter says things to people that I have never said I can't afford childcare like babysitters or a nursery so I asked her if she'd look after my child while I get a job and she laughed in my face! When my partner has finished work he wants to sit upstairs in our bedroom because spending time in the same room as my mother just makes you want to punch yourself she gets so sarcastic at anything and everything she not that long ago told my daughter to her face that she will adopt her! I think I'm a good mum I do what I can for her I've done nothing wrong toy mother it's just how she's always been we can't even find any other rented flats near us I want to get out now she's making me depressed and emotionally angry shes a very unpleasant person and I don't no why always has been! My dad works night shifts 3 days a week so when it's raining and freezing cold outside we can't go out so I'm having to shh my 2 year old for playing incase she wakes him up! I shouldn't have to be going through any of this it's putting a strain on the relationship with me and my partner and draining me of so much energy! Please any replys are welcome

[wallaby73]

Get out of there - fast! Living in a cramped matchbox is better than putting up with that!!

[Quitelikely]

Council house? Have you got money saved for a private deposit?

[Joanna2239]

The council don't want to no let alone help me I told them my mum was kicking us out so as far as they no I could be on the streets with a child, we have money for a deposit but just everywhere here is so so so overpriced that we can't afford it

[Cassawoof]

Not much advice, but am thinking of you.
Talk to your partner and make sure this doesn't come between you, don't take your frustrations out on each other, so you two and your DD remain a strong unit. Don't let this affect your relationship so that when you move out this has made you stronger together as a couple (you will look back, if we could survive that we could survive anything). And with support from each other get through this as best you can, and get out as quickly as you can.

[MiniTheMinx]

Ok, you need a plan
Maybe....?
See GP and claim depression because of all this terrible stress
Tell GP yoru parents want you out
Ask GP to write letter to council
See Health visitor, same story
Ask your father to write a short letter explaining that you have to leave in so many weeks
See your local councilor if they are approachable and see if you can get a supporting letter from them
Whatever date you decide with your father (if he agrees) must be the date that you will be officially homeless
You may find it easier to get housing without your partner if he is earning. So it maybe better not to include him in any of this.
If you decide to do this, keep your story straight and register as homeless
Depending on the strength of the letter from GP/MP/HV and whatever is available you should be offered temp or permanent accommodation. You will not be on the street with a child under 5.
Your partner would need to be rather in the background and not live with you until a suitable time elapses.

Not suggesting you should do this, but I do know that the HA and council need to be pushed absolutely to the point that they have to offer something.

[MatildaTheCat]

Thing is no matter how much you don't like living there, since it is their house and you are presumably taking up space and so on, you just can't really complain. So you have to concentrate on getting out ASAP. In the meantime find as many groups and activities you can take your dd to through the day times so she can have fun and blow off steam. You will also meet other parents for a chat. Ask your HV for ideas if you don't know what is available. Sure Start centres are a good start.

And honestly, you can't blame your mother for not wishing to provide free childcare.( and since you seem to dislike her so much it's a bit odd to want her to do this).

Plan, organise and strategise. Good luck.

Btw have you had advice from housing charities and associations for other advie? Or considered moving to a cheaper area? If you can't afford it then you can't and should consider somewhere you can afford.