Ex and I were together in our early 20s. Had a pretty messy breakup at my instigation, lots of on again, off again hoo ha. I generally handled it pretty badly and unintentionally inflicted more pain than was probably necessary (new boyfriends quickly etc). He was really messed up about it, but I was hurt too. We haven't had much contact since then.
We met through our mutual friendship group, however, and still have those same friends. Now we are both married to other people and I have a DD.
Our friends have started getting married and having big birthday celebrations which has meant we are both invited to various things. Some small pub get togethers and some large weddings.
I had every intention of saying hi, and being pleasant, after all, it all happened ages ago and we did like each other once. He has completely cut me dead, blanked me, I don't even exist. This has really upset me for some reason. I feel very uncomfortable and humiliated. I'm not a monster, I didn't cheat on him or beat him. Why carry this hatred on for so long? It feels like he's trying to make me so uncomfortable that I give up on our mutual friends and he gets them, which I would be pretty gutted about tbh.
Mutual friends ignore this and tend to invite him out more than they do me if it's not a birthday etc. I feel let down by them too.
Not sure how you would deal with this? Any ideas? Should I just suck it up? Have another event in a couple of weeks which I'm dreading. Have pmt so everything probably feels worse at the mo! Thanks for reading.
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Ex blanking me with mutual friends a decade after split
IncognitoBurrito · 25/01/2015 15:23
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