ive been sinking over the last few days - can always tell when on here more- as well as having to deal with a controlling narcisstic STXH & OW i have just been diagnosed with breast cancer - for a while i thought this may change the interraction between DH & myself but i have come to realise that nothing will change - the only discussion he has had with me has been about the critical illness cover! - says it all really! He had the option of spending some of Xmas day with the kids here but chose to spend it with family that kids know he doesnt really like. I get my 2nd lot of results on NYE - i keep telling myself to expect nothing from him & then I wont be disappointed - i know he is with OW - i know im torturing myself- just stuck in limbo again - counsellor on xmas break - and just feel like got another year of challenges i really want to put behind me. thanks for reading
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Another big bear hug from me 
so sorry you are going through this, I'm praying you get good news on Nye, having to deal with breast cancer on top of your stbxh and ow, here's another big hug x
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I hope you feel 'Up' soon.
I'm also crossing my fingers your results are great when you get them.
Mumsnet is kind of wonderful for support at difficult times.
By the way, you are not alone in the distant Ex thing. I was extremely ill in 2013, which obviously affected care of the DCs, and neither my ExH or his family even contacted me. My then very new partner helped out! I don't know what the psychology of it is, but it doesn't show these Exes in a very good light. Arses.
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