So my husband and i have had a bad year in our marriage. We are trying to work things out but i am still upset he decided to go out last night. The basics are we have no local family and always spend christmas just the 2 of us and now with our 2 year old. My husband only gets xmas day off work as he takes 3 days over new year so we can go to my sisters. Yesterday he texts me from work to say his work mates are going out tonight and can he go- i say fine. Then later he texts again to say one cant make it tonight and they want to go yesterday, boxing day. I was not happy as this would mean he gets in from work and then an hour later goes out for the night (staying out as his work is half hour drive) and i am left in on my own with our daughter in bed. He knew i was upset but went anyway, now i cannot seem to get over it. After such a bad year in our marriage i wanted him to show me he cares about me and i cannot help thinking an act like this just highlights he will never put us first. He says it didnt feel like boxing day to him as he was at work and if he didnt see his mates then he wouldnt get another chance over xmas- and we will have 3 days at my sisters when he is off work to enjoy. I am not even sure why I cant let this go but it just feels like he doesnt care enough.
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husband went out on boxing day - is that reasonable?
lizzie867 · 27/12/2014 10:36
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