Sorry, I know, another mil in thread. But my mother died when I was 5 and I don't have a very close relationship with my stepmother so I don't have much to go on
My MIL Is very nice. I like her and it's great my DD will have a grandmother who is present and interested. But I'm feeling suffocated by her.
I'm still on maternity leave so I make the effort to include DP's family in our plans, we meet for coffee and I'll sometimes take her round during the week. We will also see them at the weekend when DP is off.
Bearing this in mind, mil acts like she hasn't seen her in months every time.
She scoops her up and wants to cuddle her, won't really let anyone else have her. She says "oh I've missed you so much" "I've been having withdrawal symptoms" "oh it's been too long" even if we've only seen her a couple of days before.
We went to a family party on Saturday and mil took her into another room and sat with her the whole time saying how she missed her too much, there were people there who hadn't ever met the baby but mil monopolised her so no one else got a look in. We'd seen her two days beforehand!
She will never let her sleep and tries to wake her up if she is asleep and has taken to "popping round" uninvited during the day, often when I've just got dd down for a nap. I've been keeping the curtains closed and not answering the door!
I've always taken a step back as I do understand that she wants to spend time with her but it is really annoying me.
We are spending all day XMAS day with them and then Boxing Day with my family, mil is now upset we won't be seeing them on Boxing Day as well as XMAS day and has asked DP if we can go round there early evening Boxing Day too. DP said No, she has to go to bed and we are spending the day with my family and she got upset. What about our Christmas? Is it really all about her?
Mil wanted to take dd into her work to show her off so I went in so she could do that,even though I thought that was bloody weird! I feel I am pretty accommodating to her but it's never enough and I'm starting to get really pissed off by it all.
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