I am a SAHM to 4 kids ages 1,2,4 & 7 I work 3 times a week (short sessions) but need to do some planning too I teach sessions 1 evening 1 daytime (mum looks after kids) & 1 weekend morning (out of house 2 hrs)
My DH Is a partner in a company works long hours, often back after bedtime or staying away. Disclaimer he does work hard at his job, I could never make the money he does & I appreciate that.
I do all school runs, extra curricular activities, school admin, present buying, bill paying, washing & cooking for the kids. I also do the general day to day tidying picking up after everyone etc & have 2 kids at home full time I do have a cleaner once a week which helps
All of this I am very happy about, I love my kids & my family life, the problem is my DH Who has become more & more resentful of me being a SAHM
He constantly makes comments about the house not being tidy enough what do I do all day etc etc how I should have to answer to someone about the standards of the house
I can't take it any more we have just had a huge row, apparently I am ungrateful & spoiled the house I would say is a 6 on 1-10 scale of pigsty to pristine i have accepted that until kids are at school my standards have to slip otherwise I am a miserable stressed out wreck
He cannot understand how I feel in fact he won't understand I don't know what to do as I feel like I hate him at the moment his answer to this problem is for me to come up to the standards so that he doesn't get angry
Seriously wtf how does this happen? How do I sort this out any advice would be gratefully received
Plus ask if I've left anything important out!!
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Threetofour · 20/12/2014 12:32
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