Hi all. I wonder if I could ask for some insights into this situation?
A couple of months ago I found out 'd' p has been cheating on me with another woman. He admitted it. I was so shocked I didn't know what to do so I asked him to leave me alone to my thoughts for a while while I considered my options. I've taken legal advice, spoken to friends and generally come to terms with what he's done. I've detached and in a way I'm quite relieved that I now have permission to dislike him.
Bit of background: it's his house, I'm not married and we have a dd, nearly 13.
What's bothering me, though, is his behaviour. I just don't get it. He's still working long hours but when he's here he's behaving as if nothing has happened. Additionally, he's doing stuff round the house that doesn't need doing, such as washing unused items, tidying the food cupboard and, for the first time in years, has bought dd a fairly expensive (and totally unnecessary) Christmas present. He's also paid for some dental treatment for dd and is being generous to her (he's tight as a badger' s arse normally).
It's quite refreshing, but I'm not sure what his game is. Does he want to get in my good books? Is he pandering to dd out of guilt?
I'm a bit nonplussed and I don't know how to handle it. He hasn't said sorry or shown any remorse. And he has this way of kind of shrugging things off (he did this when I confronted him about the OW).
My worry is that he's shrugging off what he's done in the hope that it'll go away and things will return to normal.
What do you wise people think?
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Help! Lying, cheating dp behaving as if nothing has happened!
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notsogoldenoldie · 18/12/2014 12:33
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