Need some advice re x husband
I'll keep the story brief... He left me after 24 yrs ... Suddenly. I found a text he sent to a close friend, he sent her a very expensive present. In the run up to this he had been off with me for about a year, saying he didn't know how he felt about me. However he wanted things to carry on as normal. I worked looked after three kids tried to show him how much I loved him. During this time he started to meet, text a very good friend of mine. I asked her to back off and asked him to distance her. They both said I was paranoid..that there was nothing going on. I organised a big 50 th party for him , 18th and 16th combined for him and the kids. When I saw the text re present he walked. Said he hadn't loved me for ten years. I was devistated , had to tell over a100 people the party was off
His only explanation was we had grown apart, I was a financial burden to him, and I didn't understand his buissness pressures
My family were devistated, my elderly parents loved him, they both have mild dementia, lots of tears, stress over money... They helped me pay for the solicitor.i come from a big loving family and to say this was a shock is a understatement.
He refused any idea of councelling, that was it his mind was made up. Within weeks I found out he was sleeping with my friend( and bridesmaid)
And now, I have moved and I am trying to move on. However my teenage daughter is struggling with anger and depression. She is seeing a councellor who has helped. Today her Dad went with her and she told me he sat and said that "we were unhappy" and I was financially irresponsible. She came out still upset and the councelling will go on
I'm writting this because the x asked me if he could see my parents. They have said it's ok, and I'm doing it for the sake of the kids. The thing is they are very vunerable, Dad has dementia. They don't like conflict , so they have agreed. We are meeting tomorrow. I am dreading it because my husband is a charmer, very cool, buissness like. I'm sure he is going to sit there and in a relaxed fashion tell them we were unhappy for ages etc, that I was a financial strain bla bla. That for the sake of the kids we should all be friends etc. It's going to break my heart all over again :(
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Whoaminow1 · 29/11/2014 00:16
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