My older brother sexually abused me when I was a child. I have always kept it to myself, I tried to forget about it and move on. Obviously I couldn't forget and it has deeply affected me through my adult life.
Recently during a drunken conversation my older sister confessed she witnessed my brother abusing me! She walked into a room where I slept and my brother was in the bed with me. I was 9 he was 16. She thought it was a one off as she threatened to go to the police if he ever did it again. Sadly it carried on for another 2 years my brother just became more sly and devious.
As I grew up and my brother left home I buried it deep and tried to be normal.
My brother acted as though it didn't happen and we had a strange brother sister relationship.
I have struggled with what to do for the best now I have a witness to the abuse.
I know I must report what happened but I don't feel strong enough.
I wanted to let my brother know that I remembered what happened and that my sister does too.
I don't see him anymore since our parents died. I couldnt imagine facing him and saying anything about the abuse.
I decided to text him instead and after weeks of bottling out I text him this morning!
I basically told him I remembered everything and I have my sisters support.
I asked him not to ever contact me again and not to reply to the text.
He hasn't text and I hope he won't. I feel sick I'm afraid he will look for me and hurt me. He doesn't know where I live but I'm sure he could easily find out. He has never been violent but then he's never been confronted with this before. I know I've done the right thing. Its time for me to heal and move on from this.
We have an important family event this weekend. I told him in the txt that I will be there. I am hoping he won't turn up but what if he does?! I think I'd fall apart.
Any advice? TIA
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LucyBabs · 25/11/2014 13:16
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