DH and I have been together for 19 yrs and had 2 DC but for the last 3 yrs we have not got on. He wanted out due to my PND and after a full yr of worrying he would leave he stayed. Things have not got any better really except the PND had already gone when he dropped the bombshell, now I am just heartbroken that although we are together still he really does not treat me like a wife ( affection etc) I am just here like a piece of furniture. He is always putting me down and blaming me for everything - Your never happy, Nothing I ever do is good enough for you, I don't know why your hear, You cant be bothered about anything. I feel so beaten up by the comments and my self esteem has finally hit rock bottom with me privately crying whenever I am alone. I do not work and the DC are great. We HAVE IT ALL, just not each other. I do talk to him about my unhappiness but then it just gets thrown straight back at me. He works hard and is very successful, it seems like he thinks I am ungrateful because we have so much (when all I want is a proper relationshipship). He doesnt approach me for sex at all, I think once this year, never holds my hand, cuddles or any form of intimacy. I feel so alone and he just belittles everything I do or say. I shop and then get called a piss taker even though he can afford it he just doesnt see or want to see, that there is a void in my life. I ALWAYS get the blame, I am ALWAYS in the wrong. He is very verbally articulate and always has the upperhand during conversation about 'us'. Sorry this is SO long, just needed to chat.
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Always putting me down, I am so heartbroken
hurtsomuch · 06/10/2006 10:28
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