I was in tears the other night as I realised that it is unlikely I will be unable to sustain healthy relationships due to past abuse etc.
When I first meet anyone I am always looking for red flags to the point where everything is a red flag.
For example: new bloke is gushy, warm and complimentary before sex ( must be a player as only wants sex). I tell him he's too full on.
Great date/ sex followed by a bit more distance ( I tell him he's too cold/ distant). Can the man win?
Trouble is I have no idea what the warning signs are any more. Radar messed up etc. I just push people away. It would just be nice to feel that if a man calls me amazing and gorgeous then maybe he means it rather than " he just wants a shag, he dosnt mean it, I'm so crap that when he knows the real me he will walk anyway."
Yes I know I need therapy but tbh I keep having it but I find that my anxiety about relationships is getting worse rather than better.
I'm taking yet another break from men ... Again fgs.
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Anyone else unable to take anyone at face value?
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superstarheartbreaker · 31/10/2014 11:02
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