Mumsnet and your daughter

[ovaryhill]

I'm just wondering at what age you would/have introduced mumsnet to your daughter?
When reading I'm often struck by how much I wish there was something like this when I was younger as I feel I would not have wasted so much time throwing myself at losers!
Before joining here I had no idea about things like red flags and the script and so wish this had been available I guess maybe about the age of seventeen onwards?
Do you think some of the topics on here are a bit much for youngish teenagers or is a healthy knowledge of the twattery that can occur in relationships a good thing to be armed with early on?
Also I realise that the info can be helpful to guys as well,

[Espii]

I'm 18 and I found this place by myself! I come here to read through threads to give myself an insight on what to do.what not to do, red flags and such. I do also like giving advice where it may be needed. It is helpful. I come here for a laugh too. I love mumsnet. I'm not a mum but I do have a partner, but I don't think mumsnet is exclusive, and the guidelines say it's not, so I do feel welcome here.
It can be too much but they need to know. I've been a lurker since 17.

[ovaryhill]

Thanks Espii, on reflection I do realise that most young women can find the site for themselves! I suppose I'm coming at it from the viewpoint of not having computers when I was young (I'm ancient) and not having a mother I could or would confide in

[seasavage]

I hope to litter any conversations with this useful knowledge and phrases, maybe google will one day guide them (dd1 &2) if they're not wanting to talk to boring old mum!

[patronisingbitchinthewardrobe]

My daughter got here first.

[Espii]

I can only get on on weekdays! My mum isn't even on mumsnet I've always found it hard to talk to DM, everything I say she thinks is shit, so whats the point haha!
I'd much rather come here where people don't know how young I am and I can offer advice without people thinking what I'm saying is a load of crap!

[ScreamerMaanAndGoryOn]

I'm never introducing DD or DSD to Mumsnet. They can find it if they really want it, but this is my space!

[zippey]

Hope you introduce your son to it as well!

[Hairylegs47]

My daughter introduced me to MN! She said I'd love it.

And I do!!

I have introduced my youngest DD to MN - she's 16 - but she's not interested just yet. I know what you mean, I wish it had been around when I was young, but I'm glad it's here now.

[FolkGirl]

Espii I think you're really lucky to have found it. I wish I'd had the benefit of MN rather than relying on my mother's archaic and misogynistic advice! My life would look so different.

I would point my chn in this direction, but I'm bringing them up in the spirit of MN wisdom anyway.

[ovaryhill]

I think my life would have been very different too folkgirl, glad I've found itnnow though I am a wee bit addicted at the moment!

[sinningsaint]

I'm like Espii , found it myself a few years ago when I was 16 and boy am I glad I did! It has made me realise that my parents relationship really isn't very good and helped me when i've been in situations I have otherwise had no one to talk to about .

[purpleponcho]

I doubt that it'll still be worth reading in 10 years' time, but I hope to be proven wrong.

[mummyrunnerbean]

I'm 24 (and am now a mum) but have been lurking and occasionally posting since I was 18. My mum is not interested - when I tried to introduce her she asked if it was where I got all my 'hippy lentil-weaving tendencies' from . On the other hand DP is hooked. And DS is only 13 weeks but shall be indoctrinated early...

[StrangeIdeas]

My DD8 is so used to mumsnet that she started a homework story with "Mum was on Mumsnet and she read that..." Luckily it was about dogs and cats getting on.

[StrangeIdeas]

If mumsnet is a normal thing for a young girl then she might make use of the advice available. It's a very useful option.

[Espii]

its just if people realise oh they're not a mum!!! they get really sort of... protective? it's strange. I am an adult - I'm not married nor do I have children. but I can offer advice.

[FolkGirl]

How do you mean 'protective'? Protective of the poster? Of the site?

Actually, I think it helps to have the perspective of lots of different people of all ages, backgrounds and experiences.

[FolkGirl]

I don't think someone should feel unwelcome or excluded because of their age or child status.

[holeinmyheart]

I am an OAP and my daughter introduced me to MUMS-NET. A lot of the posts are young women with young Women's problems but I have found it fascinating and educational.
I so wish it was had been around when I was young.

[ovaryhill]

I'm in my forties and I find it educational too, like I said in the op I think it could have saved me a whole lot of grief when younger!

[Espii]

They get protective of the site folk, they say you shouldn't be on here if you're not with someone, have no children, are under a certain age... its somewhere where I can come and exchange experiences! There was a thread in AIBU about sex and I chimed in, and someone had a go for it! Like, I brought something to the thread about my experiences and got shot down! and ovary I think you're right, there's a lot of things on here, like I said in my first comment, red flags in relationships, things happening at work, that can help anyone, like PP said, regardless of age or child status.

[Purpleflamingos]

I think secondary school age when they have phones (both ds and dd). That way, they can access advice or read past threads on topics they may have queries on if they don't wish to talk to their dm.
I'd rather have them on here young, accessing advice than from their peers, especially around sex and relationships. How about a teens net?

[ovaryhill]

Secondary can mean anything from twelve to eighteen though, I had my first serious boyfriend at fifteen, lasted almost two years then I went off the rails a bit, I think mumsnet would have been most useful to me from seventeen onwards