So I went to buy DP's birthday card today and it made me realise ...

[FoamingAtOnesMouth]

I couldn't bring myself to buy one with a soppy "you're my everything" "you make me so happy" "you're my soulmate, my everything" verses because it's starting to feel a bit fake. It made me realise I'm not sure I feel for him as I used to. We've been arguing a lot lately, he's done a few things to hurt me, he moans all the time - I'm not sure I love the person he's become (or always was but hid?).

I didn't realise until I had these cards in my hand and realised none of it was true.

[Purplehonesty]

My mum got to that stage with her dh. It was blatantly obvious one Christmas when on the mantelpiece was a 'to my wonderful wife I love you' card and beside it a 'happy Christmas best wishes' type one!

Do you have children?

[marne2]

We rarely bother with cards at all , I hate buying cards with soppy things wrote in them, if I do buy a card I buy a blank one and write my own message.

Maybe your just going through a bad patch,maybe you need something to spice things up a little? Or maybe your relationship has come to a end

[nrv0us]

Yikes -- sorry to hear things are not going well. Do you think he knows? Or feels the same way?

[Levismum]

Have you tried talking to your dp?

I get how you feel. I was like that a few years ago with my dp... I should have had abit more about me then & ended the relationship instead of letting it drag on.

[ouryve]

I've never been able to buy those sappy cards, even though I love DH to bits.

The things he's done to hurt you: were they through malice or thoughtlessness? Is it stuff you can possibly work through, or stuff that makes you feel justified in your loss of affection?

[SeasonsEatings]

I struggle with Fathers Day cards for same reason. They need to start a greeting card range for Mediocre relationships.

In all seriousness now that you have had that realisation do some thinking, can you get away on your own for a day/few hours. Could your feelings be reignighted and how does a life without DP look like in your minds eye?

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Haha Season great idea!

My have is a christmas card that says 'Merry fucking christmas'