I don’t normally post on here as I don’t have children of my own. I have a DP with 2 DDs and I come on to get tips on the best way to approach this but I don’t know how to approach this and thought I’d ask for advice.
His ex has recently decided that she wants to move in with her new partner. My DP is really upset as he doesn’t like the thought of another guy living with his children. Things that have come to light since the split make it very likely that this guy was the OM and was the thing that pushed her to end things (although the relationship had been broken for years beforehand). She has never admitted this and DP hasn’t bothered to ask as she swore there was no one else when they split (despite the fact that it really looked like there was) and he says he can’t bothered to go over old ground and it doesn’t really matter now anyway.
I want to support him and can understand his upset but I am struggling a bit with it as he wants me to move in with him and we are working towards this, although I have some stuff to sort out first. I think it’s a tad hypocritical of him to expect her not to move on when he has. I also think that as the NRP in some ways he doesn’t have to deal with as many of the day to day struggles of parenthood as she does (although he sees them a lot and is a good dad to them) and he therefore has forfeited some of his right to control their environment.
I am also a bit about the fact he is reacting this way over his ex although he swears it’s about the kids and not her it doesn’t exactly make me feel good! I want to make this not about me and my feelings as I think it’s hard enough for him as it stands and I want to support him. Any tips? Is there any one here who’s children now live with the probably OM or OW?
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Bluetonic123 · 23/10/2014 10:57
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