why do I feel guilty?

[whewjuice]

Sorry if this isn't in with the right thread's but wasn't sure where to write it. Me and DH have a nearly 11 mo DD, we always said we wanted more then 1 child and didn't want them too far apart so said we would think about trying for no 2 when DD was a year. I feel like I'm ready to have another baby but for some reason I feel guilty about it as if it's because DD isn't enough, which isn't the case. I love her dearly and am amazed by her every day but feel as if im being a bad mum by wanting another baby. Should I just forget another baby and that way I can always just give 100% to DD without another baby taking any attention away?

[Quitelikely]

Once you have baby number 2 you won't even have the time to feel guilty! If it's what you both want then just go for it

[mymummademelistentoshitmusic]

I felt guilty when pregnant with no 2 (planned) and wondered briefly if I'd love the 'usurper'. Went on to have 3 altogether.
Think I'm saying you're not unusual, and yours isn't even 1 yet, your hormones may still be shaky. Don't worry about it.

[VileStatistyx]

If you want another child, then have one. There's 15 months between my two and when I found out I was pregnant I thought HOW can I ever love another baby? Every bit of the love I have is being used right here on this one

but - and I hope you appreciate this because I am going to get booted out of this viper's nest for the vomit inducing thing I am about to say - it's like you love your first with all your heart. But you grow another heart for each child.

god. I made myself feel ill with that little gem. Lord knows how you feel

But it's just that if you are worried that there isn't room in your heart or your life for another, or that your child would lose something of you for having to share you - you'll be surprised. It doesn't work that way.

[VileStatistyx]

Sorry, I should add that if it is your and your husband's choice to change your minds and stop at one - that is every bit as valid a choice! Have the size of family that suits you.

[whewjuice]

Thanks for such positive replies I know in a way I wouldn't but worried that I would miss out on things with DD or that she would miss out but if that was the case anyone with siblings wouldn't be a close family?! Ok another question, honestly how hard is having another baby when you have one under 2???

[VileStatistyx]

Knackering but manageable.

[Joysmum]

There's positives and negatives to all sizes of family. Just do what pleases both you and your husband.