I feel sick to my stomach writing this.
Myself and DP have been together for years, had our ups and downs, have DC (not really relevant actually) we have a really good group of friends that we've known jointly since our teens. Because of this, I'd have had the odd drunken teenage kiss way back in the day with one or two of them. Total non issue or so I thought.
One of our friends would be like our third muskateer and he's DPs best friend. We've had many years of wonderful, uncomplicated friendship.
But while I was at a work night on Friday he rang to see where I was so we met up in town and had both had a few drinks (DP at home but aware of the plans etc)
This friend basically told me he had feelings for me and raked up over our teenage past which honestly I had forgotten all about, mentioned the night I got with DP how the circumstances changed and it should have been us ending up together, that he often thinks about this. I feel heartbroken for everything, my DP mainly.
To make matters worse I'm convinced I played a part in this as it's the second time it's happened. The first time ended tragically and I carry so much guilt with me. My very best friend since childhood had become very close with my DP, but a few years ago he did pretty much the exact same this as current friend, but I told my DP and while he never confronted him, he let the friendship dissolve and the friend ended up dying in tragic circumstances. Me and DP were his closest friends and I feel I ruined the last few months of his life by telling DP and taking away his two best friends.
I haven't told DP and there's no way I will. "Friend" sent me a very depressed text today and I don't know if he's trying to guilt me over the friend who died but I'm too scared to tell anyone incase the same thing happens.
I'm not sure I'll ever trust a platonic friendship again. I hate that I have to lie to DP from here on out, something I never do.
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goingincognitolala · 21/10/2014 00:07
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