My partner and I have been together for nearly 2 years. We get on with each otherĂ¢??s dc/family really well and our relationship is fantastic. The only Ă¢??issueĂ¢?? is he is just over 21 years older than me. Me being 28 and him 49. The age gap isn't noticeable at the moment apart from when he references things from before I was born.
I am quite a practical and pragmatic person unfortunately, and recently I canĂ¢??t help but ponder (and worry) about the future of our relationship or how things will be in 5, 10, 20+ years time (39 and 60 sounds like an even bigger age gap for some reason). I really would love more dc and he does too, despite his age, but again I have reservations about going ahead with that due to his age. I am concerned I will have elderly parents and an older partner to look after (and IĂ¢??ll still be working), and - if we did have dc - dependent children to look after as well. And the thought of growing old alone makes me feelĂ¢?¦. I have been making more of an effort to live in the moment and not stress about the future and just go with it, as no-one can predict the future. BUT I feel that with such an older partner the odds of the issues that concern me do have a much higher risk of happening. On the other hand I think itĂ¢??d take a stronger woman than me to end such a good and happy relationship just because of the age gap, the idea of leaving someone I love makes no sense. How can I stop worrying and overthinking about all the other stuff though? Argh.
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