I think it over, don't know what to say

[Allovernow001]

I think my relationship is over, but he won't admit it!

Had been with my bf 2 years when at Xmas time I found out I was pregnant unplanned, he didn't want the baby and after I made choice that I was going ahead with or without him he decided to stick around! The first 6 months of the pregnancy were awful and we split up many times because of his behavior, he was drinking to much and just being dam right horrible to me! He also refused to have any sex with me from the day I found out I was pregnant! Not only did we not have sex but there has been a lack of any intimacy, he didn't kiss me, cuddle me, sits next to me..... Nothing!!!

I brought this up lots in my pregnancy and felt pretty low about myself the whole way through, he assured me that he just found the thought of the baby being there off putting for sex and assured me he still loved me and that sex would be easy to get back on track once baby arrived! Every time we broke up it was him who begged me back!

So our baby has been born and this weekend is my birthday! He has made a huge deal in the lead up that we would have a nice night out for my birthday followed by some sex and he knew this was a huge deal for me, I'm desperate to get some intimacy back, he also promised that he would not get to drunk and he would also cover the night feeds as I have done every single night since dc was born!

So sat night we go out, have nice meal, he gets to drunk comes home passes out and guess who does the night feeds ! I make a comment this morning and he promises that it's ok we still have tonight etc etc!

So as this evening wears on the excuses start, he is hot, full up from dinner, early start in the morning etc, this all starts around 8pm and he is awkward and avoiding sitting near me, touching etc! And we stay up till midnight then he says he is off to bed and makes it clear it's to sleep!

The whole pregnancy I have been feeling like he is only here because he thinks he should be not because he lives me! Don't get me wrong he is totally besotted by our dc but I truly think there has been more to it then just not being happy about sex when pregnant he was honestly repulsed by my body when I was pregnant even though I only gained 2 stone! And now a month after having dc I'm back to same wait I was to start with and wearing all my pre pregnancy clothes!

I honestly just don't know what to say to him, he knew how upsetting I was finding it through the pregnancy and he knew how much I was looking forward to my birthday weekend and he has done everything he can to avoid me and show no affection at all!

[FunkyBoldRibena]

You don't know what to say to him? How about 'This is a waste of both of our time. Lets call it a day'?

[gamerchick]

Yep ^^ flogging a dead horse just means you're putting off the chance to be happy.

[Joysmum]

It's not working for either of you. All the time you are both committed to your relationship for the sake of your child you're wasting your best years and not giving yourselves the chance to find your true partner for life.

You both deserve better.