My DH is moody when he's tired and will be completely short tempered if I try to talk to him as I'm getting ready for bed, if he's already in bed. He feels his sleep is very important and even if he's just turned the light out, so is obviously not asleep yet, he will be quite rude if I talk to him as he says it disturbs his sleep.
He went to bed at 10pm and I followed an hour later. Normally I'm only about 15 minutes behind him as I have to wash off make up etc. But tonight I remembered I was due for my fortnightly laser treatment so stayed up until 11 to sort that out.
Just gone midnight I was woken suddenly to feel my DH pulling the duvet off me and squeezing my breast closest to him. I woke with a shock and involuntarily and sharply raised my hand closest to him, I suppose as a protective mechanism. I've recently broken that arm so it really hurt to move so quickly, which made me yelp in pain.
DH said he didn't hurt my hand and I explained that it was my sudden movement that hurt; but what on earth was his doing? He said he was only half asleep and turned over in a strop. I can only imagine he wanted sex or was dreaming, both of which I've never experienced with him in all the years we've been together.
I felt violated though and wanted to cry. I also felt angry that he felt it is ok for him to wake me out of my sleep in the middle of the night, when he gives me such a hard time for even talking after 10pm! I rationalised my emotions as being due to my sexual abuse as a child, and was a bit autopsies at my own strength of reaction.
But it made me wonder if such strength of feeling is so misguided? It feels like what he did was wrong although I'm sure many people would laugh and tell me how lucky I am to be woken for sex. I just don't feel it in this instance and am confused as to why not.
Can anyone help me make sense of this?
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Am I just being weird?
Arainyday · 02/10/2014 01:44
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