So my 'D'P left me this afternoon... Lost, relieved and so so sad!

[StrippedPJs]

He left to go to work at 12:30pm saying to my DS (he's not his) 'step-daddy' loves you and I'll see you when you get home, said he loved me and he'd see me when he got home too.

We were talking all afternoon he even asked me what we were doing for dinner this evening two text's later he told me he saw me as more of a friend and wanted to move back in with his mother (he's 24) he then said he didn't want us to break up he just wanted to live with his mum.

These were his reasons for breaking up with me;

• the bed is uncomfortable
  
• it's too hot in the room
  
• i'm seen as a friend
  
• it's like coming home to a friend
  
• he loves and cares about us both and wants to be together still just as he lives with his mum
  
• he is stressed
  
• he just wants to come home and relax/play the PS4 after work
  
• he spends all his time upstairs playing the PS4 and not with me
  

There was a lot more he wanted to come in and 'talk about it' I'm also being a dick because I put his stuff outside in bags bar his PS4, Xbox and TV He had always said if he left he would leave the XBox and the TV and we got rid of mine.

He sat there on my drive for 2 hours demandind, texting and banging on my door asking for it all back whilst my 2 year old DS shouted daddy at him.

He threatened to keep my key but soon posted it through the letter box after and he left.

I love him, It hurts a year and a half together, and he could do this to me, to us :(

[Molotov]

He sounds like a man-child to me.

You say he's 24: how old are you? 18m isn't all that long to be together (although I appreciate that this is relative).

As difficult as this may be to read right now, you seem best rid of him.

[AnyFucker]

I think it best you stick to looking after one son.

[Fontella]

He sounds like a great big baby.

[MiniTheMinx]

He isn't mature enough to handle any responsibility

He probably sees you as a friend because, if you are mature and take care of stuff, you are not on the same wavelength as him

I'm sure it hurts now and I am sure your little boy will miss him too

You need to support your children and take the view that you won't let another man like this let them down

You deserve better too and in time will look back and realise that you are best off without the man-child

[Justalittlebitfedup]

Agree with all PP, he sounds like a child.

Of course, 24 is still quite young but you obviously have different priorities in life. Perhaps it would be best to not see him for a while, your poor DS is probably confused as to why "daddy" isn't there anymore

[however]

He's not into you. You're well rid.

Don't expose your son to such fraught breakup dramas, in future. Bad move. Entertainment goods aren't worth it.

[magoria]

If you are a similar age then I think you have had to grow up a lot to look after your DC.

He hasn't. He still wants to play games all night which you cannot do when you have a family to look after.

Neither is wrong.

He has gone about it in a very shabby way towards you though.

I do wonder at his use, several times, that you are 'like a friend'. This can suggest that his head has been turned and he is considering someone else as a girlfriend.

Also suggesting you stay together but he lives back home suggests he is trying to not be the bad one and dump you or isn't quite brave enough to come out with it. Maybe to keep you on the back burner in case someone else doesn't work out?

[BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted]

Staying together while he lives with Mummy probably means he thinks he can get to pop round for dinner and some sex when it suits but make no contribution to family life, either practical, emotional or financial while he can pursue a social life elsewhere as well.

Your little boy's attachment to him being broken is heart-breaking. He's only two. Such a shame for him. Please be ultra-cautious about introducing any ones else into his life unless you're absolutely confident it's going to be permanent

[Bogeyface]

You did all this with your child in the house? You both sound as bad as each other to be honest.

Did it at no point occur to you to say "come home, have dinner and we will discuss it" it an adult way? Then if he still wanted to move out you could have done it amicably and sensibly and not with two of you throwing hissy fits infront of a frightened and confused 2 year old.

You both disgust me.

[StrippedPJs]

I'm 21 so younger than him.

I've known him since my son was 4 months he didn't go out or introduce him till he was 6 months old. My Ds doesn't see his real dad (he's not bothered and has been court ordered to stay away!)

[AnyFucker]

You have had another shit one, OP. He offered you nothing but his half hearted presence and you thought that was enough.

Move on. It might be an idea to lay off men for a while and concentrate on your son.

[JeanSeberg]

You both disgust me

Slight over-reaction to someone you've never met...

[StrippedPJs]

Bogey face how dare you!!!

My two year old was in the front room as I have just moved in the door handles haven't been replaced mean he can open doors.! I couldn't of sent him anywhere as I have no family near by!

I didn't shout scream or swear. I asked to stay in fact cried and begged he wanted to leave and he didn't want u! So quite frankly shove your comment where the sun doesn't shine

[Holdthepage]

Just give him his games console back, fighting over a PS4 while your DS is crying for his daddy is disgusting. You both need to grow up.

[UpUpAndAway123]

know you must be hurting but he sounds like the boy I went out with for a couple of years when is was 15; like him he wants the sex but the comfort of his mummy to cook his teas and let him play computer games whenever he wants.
He wants you as a 'friend' so he can shag you when he feels like but go back home to his mum's at the end without any of the hassle of a relationship.
His excuses are childish, he is a child.
Like AF said, concentrate on your son and lay off men for a while x

[StrippedPJs]

He has everything back!!

[googoodolly]

Sorry, I know you're hurting, but you really shouldn't have done this in front of your DS. You should either wait until he's in bed or at nursery/napping or something. It's not fair otherwise.

It's bad that you withheld his things and caused more of a scene too, even though I totally get why you did it.

[Quitelikely]

Well I think he was trying to let you down gently. With all due respect your son isn't his and he obviously isn't ready for the responsibility that running a home and looking after a child brings.

I'm not sure why you just didn't accept what he said and hand his things over without a fuss.

Let it go.

[Bartlebee]

Is his name Adrian Mole?

And arguing over (kids') computer stuff? Grow up and focus on your child.

[EmmaGellerGreen]

Good grief, is some games console more important than your child? I think that you both need to adjust your priorities and try to act as adults.

[AnyFucker]

OP is very young. Love, when you have been hurt too many times by choosing dickheads like this overgrown school boy, you will realise he was a bad prospect in the first place.

Spend some time single, and reflect on the kind of role model you want for your son and in future accept nothing less

[Bogeyface]

I stand by what I said.

Instead of focussing on what needed to be done to achieve the best outcome for everyone, you threw a tantrum.

I can understand the feelings of wanting to do that, but you had a small child in the house, hardly more than a baby who will have known something was wrong. That will have been very frightening for him even if he cant articulate it, and I fail to see how him being trapped in a room on his own is a good thing! Instead of sorting it out by talking to your (ex?) partner, you allowed it to go on for 2 hours. You were both extremely childish.

[Bogeyface]

He sat there on my drive for 2 hours demandind, texting and banging on my door asking for it all back whilst my 2 year old DS shouted daddy at him.

From your OP. He wasnt exactly protected from this was he?

[dairyfreekid]

Oh my gosh poor you its hard being a lone parent, been there but at least you would be worried if he was going to go again because he probably will when things just get a bit much. No good enough when you gave children you cant Just get up and go when it gets a bit much it must hurt now but you will look back at wasted time if you wait for him to grow some balls! Chin up ??

[AnyFucker]

It's done now.

OP, take my advice love and concentrate on your son now.