Relationship has always been difficult - very much chalk and cheese. I am the extrovert, ambitious, go getting, responsible, fiesty one....he is the introvert, conflict averse, child like, "Mr Nice".
We get on really well from a social/interest pov - but but I dont think I love care or respect him deep down. I have been so frustrated and confused by my feelings because he is so "placid" - but there have been so many challenging life milestones where he hasnt met any normal expectations and I have felt let down. I really dont think that he has any emotional depth or if he has he is unable to express it and/or communicate. Just read the following and it has hit me in the face hard...I think I stay because of FOG - I have 4 kids all in the middle of critical stages of education. Do I just count the days and try to keep a peaceful home until a more appropriate time to splinter my family? The kids will hate me devastating their gentle Dad.
books.google.co.uk/books?id=JIyyid3xRyEC&printsec=frontcover&dq=Living+with+the+Passive-Aggressive+Man&cd=1&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q&f=false
Have been to Relate many times but most recently (Jan-March) I have been on my own to try to work through my feelings. Counsellor said to me that "he does not meet my emotional needs" this has stuck in my head but I did not know what she meant - I think I do now. I had planned to separate after GCSE exams - but I got cold feet as I believed he would turn into a sad dirty lonely alcoholic in a flat and I couldnt impose that on my children.
Not sure what I am asking - just can anyone relate?
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Just realised that I am married to a passive - aggressive , anyone else?
BhearNOW · 26/09/2014 03:24
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