I am trying to calm myself down but honestly don't know whether to laugh or cry.
My mum has been wanting to have 13yo dd to stay overnight for ages. Dd doesn't like my mum and hasn't been keen though I've been trying to persuade her. Had a wedding to go to this weekend so told dd she would have to go. Mum very happy to have her.
I had to go out shortly before mum could get there. So my mum arrives, comes in the house. Took one look at the front room and exploded about the mess. Dd tried to explain that we're having builders coming this week so I'm currently trying to cram all the contents of the downstairs of my house into one room.
According to dd mum wouldn't listen and raced round the house looking in rooms and ranting and swearing. Her main points to dd are;
That my dh is a "backside licker".
That the house is disgustingly dirty. (Its not dirty, its a tip atm due to impending builders".
That dd has a new computer in her bedroom. "You're going to turn into your mother" was the phrase mentioned. (Because I surf the web rather than watch TV she thinks I spend too much time on computers.....but its fine for her to spend 5 hours an evening staring at the TV).
That we're "dirty chavs". Okaaay.
That I'm so fat it must be painful for me to walk. I'm a size 16.
That I'm unhealthily fat and need a better diet. Lots of variations of insults concerning my size.
That my brother is so fat he's going to get diabetes.
Back story. My mum can occasionally be nice but doesn't seem to keep the pretence up for long before having some majorly toxic rant like this.
I'm fucking sick of it. She said similar about the house years ago when i was an inpatient in hospital and funnily enough hadnt hoovered, etc due to being in a hospital bed. She had a row with dh that time and threw herself out saying she was never coming back.
I didnt let her back in my house for over a year as she'd been so rude. A year later she's back at it.
Her house is a pristine show home. My standards aren't quite so high but I'd hoovered and cleaned the kitchen only that day. My house is not dirty but can sometimes be slightly cluttered. I'm talking a pile of toys in the front room, a pile of post on the worktop. Not house of hoarders type thing.
I'm tempted to email her telling her she isn't welcome here anymore.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
How pissed off would you be with your mother over this?
VivaLeBeaver · 22/09/2014 22:57
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.