A friend has confided in me about her marriage. It came up because her husband is always off with his hobby at the weekend, leaving her and her DC (1yo). She has just returned to work and is desperate to spend time as a family.
While she was telling me about it she said she hated discussions with DH because 'she didn't want him to resent her' and she 'didn't want to make him feel guilty' as he has a temper and guilt can set it off. She said she thinks he needs anger management as DH shouts and throws stuff when he is angry. She told me it would be her fault if she provoked him and he did something or threw something with her DC in the room. She said her mum says never to push a discussion with a man too far as we are 'all animals' and something might happen that would then be her fault for pushing.
Obviously, I am concerned about her. Her confidence is very low and she said she gives as good as she gets but it is apparent that her DH scares her and she's avoiding conversation with him in case he blows. My DH and hers are close, I know her DH loves her. But I can also see he is a bully.
Does anyone have advice? I think he is controlling but I can't say that to her. She trusts me to want the best for their marriage not just for her and that's why she's confiding.
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CloudLining · 22/09/2014 21:38
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